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I own more than two dozen clocks and timepieces but about twenty-five percent of them are not running. I stopped the striking clocks, and two of
my four watches have dead batteries. I am one of those people that are obsessed with knowing the correct time. Yet, what do I do with the time I
know I have?
Time seems to stand still for a lot of us in the grieving process. A tape keeps playing in our heads of the dying moments of our loved ones. We find it
difficult to live in the actual time we have.
Jandy Nelson is an American author who comments on “moving on” following the death of her sister.
“Grief is forever. It doesn’t go away; it becomes a part of you, step for step, breath for breath. I never stop grieving her because I never stop loving her. That’s just how it is … All I can do is love her, and love the world, emulate her by living with daring and spirit and joy.”
Our main jobs in this life are to choose our eternal home and glorify God in the time that we have.
Matthew 7:13-14 = Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it.”
Jesus said in Matthew 5:16, “Let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven.”
Your decisions about life and death may be criticized, but they are still your decisions. In every situation, we should ask — “How can God best be glorified in this?”
If you start to move back to normalcy “too soon” after a loss, some people will criticize your fast pace and tell you that you are not doing grief correctly. Likewise, if you “move too slowly” to suit the timetable of others, they will tell you that you are “stuck in your grief.”
Friends, glorify God in all that you do, and everybody else can get in line after that. If I am going to answer to Him and if God is going to be my judge at the end of my days, HIS judgment must be all that really matters now! Romans 14:10,12
Perhaps after the death of your spouse, you are accused of starting dating again too soon or maybe you don’t go to the cemetery often enough to suit some people.
Life is all about balance and the proper use of the time we have.
“Hey Mister, Do You Have The Time?”
Perhaps I do, but maybe I don’t. It all depends.